Got Dumped – Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back?

It’s never easy trying to survive a breakup. The pain of being separated from the person you love can be very overwhelming. This pain can make you either wallow in self pity or feel so much anger towards your ex or even towards yourself. These are normal emotions that one can experience after an unsuccessful love relationship. If you confront these emotions and learn to understand your pain, you will be on your road to healing. Do not let this pain and the negative emotions that go with it dictate how your days will go. Instead, recognize that the pain is there, but given time, it will not hurt as much as it did the first day your ex said it was over.

Your goal should be to regain your composure and your self esteem after the break up. Oftentimes, a break up creates feelings of rejection, which can affect the way you look at yourself. Especially if the relationship lasted for years, it becomes difficult to accept that the one with whom you invested so much emotions in has suddenly dumped you.

Keep telling yourself that being dumped is not the end of the world. Turn the table to your advantage by looking at this period as a time for self-reflection and for telling yourself that you are worth loving.

On your road to recovery, there may be times when you’ll find yourself asking, “Should I try and get back with my ex?” You alone can answer that question. It will do you some good though to keep your distance from your ex right after the break up. Giving yourself time and space to understand the situation better will make you see things more logically.

Should you decide to give the relationship another try, it should come from a gut feeling that a reconciliation with your ex is what you deserve. Be prepared for the worst, though. You maybe wanting to get back with your ex, but your ex may not feel the same way.

When you’re ready to give it your best shot, find creative ways to win your ex back. Doing unexpected things like giving your ex a call after a long period of no contact can be effective, but do it in a way that it will not sound as if you’re too eager to get back together again. Drop some hints that you’re in the neighborhood on a particular day and you’ll be pleased to have coffee with him. If he expresses interest, then it may be a good sign that he welcomes the idea of reconciliation.

There are no fixed rules on how to get back your ex. Every relationship is unique and dynamic. What is important is to be true to yourself and to your loved one. If things are not happening as you want them to, then consider the possibility that the relationship is really doomed to end.

8 Responses to “Got Dumped – Should You Try to Get Your Ex Back?”

  • Goe122:

    I mean, a emotionally/verbally abusive relationship.

  • Sergeant Pickle:

    I have really liked this guy named Larry for over 3 years. He is 2 years older than me but if you like somebody a lot and if your love is strong, then it can’t be broken, especially from a small age difference. I spilled out everything to him, telling him how I feel; I’m totally in love with him. Then in the middle of it he says that he’s in a relationship and that it’s a TERRIFIC Relationship. I was crushed. I drowned my sorrows in ice cream. Then did something really stupid,,,,,,,……………….. I texted him back saying that I had a boyfriend and used my best friends name, that’s a boy. He never replied but I’m still in love with him. What should I do? And if you look at some of my other user ions it includes the same person, Larry.

  • Rishabh Bajpai:

    What are some terms that go with a casual relationship?

  • Erin:

    what do you think of long distant relationships??

  • superdork:

    on facebook you can set your relationship status to an open relationship. what does it mean?

  • thinkthought:

    The person that did the dumping or the person who got dumped? Who is likely to do these things soon after a breakup:

    1. take down pics and interests associated with the former relationship
    2. put up provocative pics of oneself with new lover

  • Kaylla:

    what is something that can have a relationship, but not people. like something else that comes to mind when you think of the topic ‘relationships’ or even just when you hear the word what first pops into your head

  • Elijah luv:

    Where do you draw a line between online relationship and real life relationship?
    well.. I met my bf on the net ( Facebook) and he lives 7 hours away from me.
    So we can only meet in person once a month. ( we chat everyday though)

    Some say our relationship is ” online relationship” and others say it’s ” real life relationship”.
    I’m confused..

    What’s the definition of ” Online Relationship”?
    Even though we met on the net, i don’t think we are no longer an online couple.
    We meet in person every month and i know him very well. ( met his family and friends)

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