Getting back together with your ex can be easy if your breakup was over something trivial like leaving the toilet seat up or someone eating the last piece of banana cream pie. But sometimes it won’t be as easy if the breakup happened for a major reason like cheating or abuse.
Depending on the reason for the breakup it is entirely possible you’ll be able to get back together. It’s important that you understand the reasons for your breakup though so you can work that out. If you don’t work out the problems that caused your breakup, those same problems will resurface.
If your breakup was about something that has to do with your ego then all you may have to do is sit down and talk it out for a while. This may sound easy, but it’s actually pretty hard to do for a lot of people because neither person wants to believe they were wrong.
Someone has to swallow his or her pride and say sorry, and if you’re the one who wants to get back together then it’s better to just bite the bullet and apologize than be pig headed and refuse to budge. Talk out your problems like adults and don’t let it turn into a screaming match where you both are exchanging insults.
Another good way to get back together is to just start off casually dating. What does casual dating mean? Well to be cute about it, all it means is that you both will see each other and hold each other to no expectations whatsoever. You’ll both be free to see whoever you want to see and you both will be free to do whatever you want.
This can be fun if both people are clear on how it works; it’s a great way to see if you still have feelings for each other. If either of you find yourself getting jealous of someone else that the other person might be seeing, then this is a sign there are still strong feelings involved.
Remembering what it was that attracted you to each other in the first place will also help you get back together, if the possibility of getting back together is there. You need to spend a little time with each other without any strings attached. No living together, no serious dating and no expectations. All you want to have is fun with each other so you can rediscover what you liked about each other. This will make you have more of an appreciation towards each other if you were to get back together.
Getting back together after a serious breakup can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. Casually date at first so that you take away the expectations. Talk to each other a little bit to see if you can solve whatever problems you had that caused your relationship to end and see if you can rediscover what you liked about each other. If there is still a spark then you both will know.
Brian Hendrick has been helping men and women with relationship problems for several years and has helped thousands of couples resolve many tough issues.