You’ve done it all since the break up, haven’t you? You’ve tried to woo your ex girlfriend back with flowers or gifts. Maybe you’ve even gone so far as to write her a compassionate, heart wrenching love note. You’ve given her space to work out her feelings and you’ve apologized time and time again for your behavior before the relationship fell apart. None of it has worked and you’re now panicked. What if you can’t get her back? Up to this point she’s refused to even entertain the idea of you two talking about a possible reunion. Is all hope lost or is there still some way to turn the tides and get her to want you back too? Before you decide there’s absolutely no hope for the two of you, there’s some advice you absolutely must consider. If you love the woman, don’t be too quick to give up on the idea of getting her back.
Show her you’ve changed. You’ve heard the ages old saying that actions speak louder than words, yes? It’s very true, especially when it comes to a break up. If you’ve told your ex girlfriend repeatedly that you’re a changed man or that you won’t make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past, she isn’t going to believe you unless she sees those changes with her own eyes. Instead of focusing all of your physical and emotional energy on thinking of ways to get her back, take a few moments to consider what you can do now to improve who you are as a person. We all have goals that we strive towards and now is the ideal time for you to make those goals part of your future reality. If you transform yourself into a better version of the man you are now, not only will that impress your ex girlfriend but it’s going to increase your own self esteem which is always a very good thing as you move forward in your own life.
Show her what a reliable and compassionate friend you are. If you’re like most men who want a second chance, you wish you could jump right back into a romantic relationship with your ex. Obviously, that’s ideally what will happen but that may be wishful thinking about this point. It takes time for the negative feelings of the ending of the relationship to be replaced with positive feelings about the person you broke up with. In other words, your ex girlfriend is going to need to take as much time as she individually needs to get over what happened between you two. If you try and rush her back into something romantic before she’s ready, any chance you may have had will vanish in the blink of an eye. You’ll find that she’ll be much more open to the idea of you two starting out again as friends rather than potential soul mates. Take your time showing you that you are indeed a great friend. If she sees the qualities of a trusted friend in you, she’ll be much more likely to open her heart back up to you in the future.
Show her that you aren’t living in the past. One increasingly common complaint among women who’ve recently gone through a break up is that their ex boyfriend can’t seem to move past what happened. It’s absolutely essential that you put the past to rest if you want a future with your ex girlfriend. Repeatedly bringing up the past and what went wrong between you two is going to not only make her feel incredibly uncomfortable, it’s going to show her that you aren’t emotionally mature enough to move towards a brighter and more stable future. If you’ve apologized for your part in the break up and she’s accepted that apology, it’s time to put the past where it belongs. Don’t bring up the things you two once shared, and don’t try and open a discussion about went wrong. Instead, enjoy the moment and focus on what the future will bring you. This type of positive attitude is going to help you a lot when it comes to getting back the woman you love.