Loving a man who is not over his ex-wife can be really painful. You love him unreservedly while he loves you half heartedly. He may profess his love for you but you get the feeling that his heart does not totally belong to you. What are the signs that he is not over his ex-wife?
i. He feels strongly about her. Whatever it is that split them up he still feels strongly about her. He gets angry and frustrated at the very mention of her name. He simply cannot talk to or with her without him getting emotional… she simply madness him… a clear sign that he is not over her.
ii. He is still bothered by what she did (or didn’t do).A man who is not over his ex-wife will keep bringing up the thing (or things) that his ex-wife did to contribute to the breakup. He may even blame her angrily for what she did or failed to do in the relationship.
iii. He wants to know things about her love relationships. A man who is not over his ex-wife will want to know who she is dating, where they go to, what they do together etc. Any news of his ex-wife’s love interest captivates him… and sometimes he seeks that information through the grapevine or by watching her (stalking her?).
iv. He compares himself with her new love interests. A man who is not over his ex-wife will wonder what she see’s in the new guys. He will keep putting down his ex-wife’s new guys almost like he was the best she ever had… and nothing will ever compare to him. He is not being arrogant… he simply cannot believe that she is over him and has replaced him in her life since he still had hopes of being with her again.
v. He compares you unfavorably with her. A sign that he is not over his ex-wife is that every now and then he will mention how great his ex-wife did this or that… it just sometimes slips out of his mouth. He still sees her as being this great person… and you don’t measure up yet. With time he may be able to see your great qualities but right now he is still in love with his ex-wife.
A man who is not over his ex-wife will still have strong feelings for her that will come out in his actions and speech.