Your Ex Boyfriend – Do You Know Why he Keeps Rejecting You?

Most breakups come as a surprise and that is what is apt to throw you into an emotional tailspin. You spend hours trying to figure out what you did to offend the man you love. Then you resort to texting and calling him in an effort to get him to talk. All of your efforts end up by leaving you with a feeling of futility and you become convinced that you have lost him for good.

But, men don’t react the same as woman and what you think is the problem might not be close to what is bothering your ex boyfriend. This is why you need to understand how your ex thinks and start pulling him back instead of pushing him farther away. First of all no matter how you beg him, your ex boyfriend is not going to simply tell you what is wrong. Men just don’t do that.

In fact the reason he continues to reject you could be that he is afraid he might weaken and tell you the truth. However, there are ways that you can get inside his mind and find the problem without him having any clue as to what you are doing. This is nothing more than using male psychology to get your ex boyfriend to come out of his shell and talk to you and it is much easier than you think.

Right now he may be as unhappy and sorry about the breakup as you are, but men have a large ego and if he suddenly told you he had made a mistake, it might make him look weak in front of his buddies. If your ex is like most men he has been telling his friends over a few beers about how he dumped you and you just won’t leave him alone. No matter how much he wants you back, he can’t allow himself to come begging you to forgive him.

Another reason for him rejecting you could be fear of commitment. Many men fear the responsibility that comes with having a home and family. As long as you keep telling him you love him he has no fear of losing you and so he will take his time getting back with you. The problem is that he might find someone else and never come back.

Things are apt to change abruptly if you give him a reason to believe you have had enough and are moving on. Since it is well known that men will go after what they think they have lost, you need to make him believe that he may be losing you. All it will take is for you to start ignoring him and start going out with your friends. This is not an attempt to make your ex boyfriend jealous. You have to show him that you can have a life without him.

Some men never realize what they have until they are in danger of losing it. Once your ex sees how important you are to his happiness, you won’t be able to keep him away from you.

11 Responses to “Your Ex Boyfriend – Do You Know Why he Keeps Rejecting You?”

  • Terrence:

    im still not over my ex-bf even after we broke up for a year. i still do miss him a lot although we dont contact anymore. i do not know what to do. eveything i do, i do for him, every step i take, i step for him, every thought i make, i think of him. i dont know what am i supposed to do. there are many guys after me right now and i just have to reject them for a year. i want my ex-bf back. but its impossible between us. we know that. but right now in my life, all i want is him. what am i to do without him in my mind? how am i supposed to get over him? i work for him, i school for him, i save money for him and cant get him off my mind even for a minute. its been like this for a year and i really cannot take it. i feel like dying many times. but counselling does not help to forget him. i’ve tried ALL ways. just couldnt. its torturing me. please help me.

  • Gundown64:

    He broke up with me 2 years ago. Anyways he tried adding me as a friend a couple of months ago. I rejected it and today I saw another friend request from him. I have a boyfriend and I have a feeling he knows that I have a boyfriend.
    Why does he keep trying to add me on facebook? He’s the one who dumped me.

  • fattiemanny:

    PLEASE HELP ME get my EX boyfriend BACK!!?
    Basically he asked for a break i was resistent then texted him too much so we broke up.After we broke up i got really pissed at him so kept calling and texting him(he never anwsered).Then i gave it a couple of weeks(3-4)then sent him a text saying”hi how have u been” he diddnt anwser so a couple of days later i sent him a similar text and he still diddnt anwser then i got pissed of and started bugging him and sending him really stupid texts,calling him 14 times a day etc(i know that i acted like a crazy ***** but im not honest.İ just acted that way cause i felt hurt and rejected)
    Also i got drunk a couploe night ago and sent him a text asking for free sex.That doesnt mean anything.And he diddnt anwser
    Have i done too much damage?
    is there ANY way at all that i can rectify what i have done
    İ havent called or texted him for a week but he hasnt contacted me in any way either
    please help me get him back

  • Coffee t:

    He broke up with me 2 years ago. Anyways he tried adding me as a friend a couple of months ago. I rejected it and today I saw another friend request from him. I have a boyfriend and I have a feeling he knows that I have a boyfriend.
    Why does he keep trying to add me on facebook? He’s the one who dumped me. I wonder if it would be a good idea to message him and ask him what he wants?

  • skychi99:

    I broke up with my boyfriend in October because it was clear all he wanted was sex. Every single day he would ask me out again and again. I kept on rejecting him and I said there was a reason I dumped him. He tries to play innocent and keeps saying he dose not understand why we broke up. I said that he was way to clingy, over protective, and only wanted sex. His constant pestering got very frustrating, so finally I told him to get a life and move on. For the next couple months he got very desperate, doing anything to see me. I was tired of him tiring to hook up with me, I tried to be friends but all he wanted was a girlfriend. Finally I wrote a harsh letter telling him to back off, I am not interested, and please do not ask me out again. I also said not to call me and to stop texting me. About five minuets after I gave him that letter, he texted me asking me out! How can I make him understand I am absolutely not interested?

  • Ev dog:

    i posted a few questions yesterday about me and my recently ex boyfriend. we talked today and hes more and more getting to b my friend like we were before. i miss him like crazy and hes all i think about. i heard its always possible to get and ex boyfriend back no matter what. i was wondering if anyone has any tips on how to get him back. we still like each other a lot but he thinks it cant work. i kno it can. so wat are some ways i can win him back. it doesnt matter if it takes a while…just as long as i get him back. i would appreciate detailed answers and please IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY IDEAS DO NOT ANSWER. I DO NOT WANT ANSWERS SAYING IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE ECT. JUST GOOD ANSWERS PLZ=]

  • airdogspace2:

    He told me a year ago he had stopped talking to her. Since then I have caught them talking many times and after that. Even them saying how much they missed each other on his birthday. Now once again I brought it up and he told me they talked last week. I then told him I was done and I couldn’t deal with it anymore. So he text her “never text me again” which I thought was dramatic and immature. She text back right away saying she wouldn’t and kind of laughed it off. What do I do?
    He didn’t laugh it off, she laughed it off. It’s immature because obviously they have been texting. Why would you say that someone you have been talking to ? It’s immature to only say that.

  • llb443:

    beating her and raping her then my boyfriend said she would not sex with him for five years she kept rejecting him, and stop after two minutes of sex. He wont have sexual intercoure with me not come inside me but play with me, but this seems strange to me, i feel rejected, what the heck is going on

  • kevindiking67verizonnet:

    Im 15 and hes 14 and he goes to a different school than me. The first time he came over in january he was nice and we started kissing and then he kept saying he wanted to go all the way and he was starting to be mean by saying he was gonna hit me harder than my dad did when i was little. He went way to far and it hurt my feelings. Before that he was literally the nicest boyfriend and that was the second time we dated. He keeps texting, and calling and saying he wants me back and all that stuff. I figured out he is moving to my school and he will be a freshman and ill be a sophomore. Should i be worried he might pull stupid stunts at school?

  • stingerms:

    me and my ex had a very tough break up a few days ago. this was a two year relationship, and he was the first one i’ve ever loved. but our break up left him very vengeful. he’s talking shit about me in his other school. i’m not going to do the same thing to him and go down to that level. but i do want to actually talk about it so he could understand why i broke up with him better. he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me, and he hates my guts, but i need to discuss things with him. but should i? if i should, how to i get him to listen to me without running away or slamming the door in my face? please help :( i don’t want to be the bad guy here.

  • Travoiz:

    i dont even really like him any more all like that and every time he calls me its just for phone sex and he gets rejected almost every time but sometimes i give in. I even talked to him about this and he said that isnt the only reason he calls me, but it is so obvious it is. The whole situation is pissing me off and i dont know what to do can u help me?

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